This is the FCB Podcast Network great things when they trunk job foot change at top dun. We don't listen to y'all this d hot We don't listen to y'all this d hotel. Make a scream out now like a sound dun because the rockets in the crowds like a tune in the charge for the outdoor, tune in the charge for the outlaw. Walking to the Outlaws. This is Doc Rijoda King hit tomorrow alongside Robbing on MALLEI donte Brian is not in today. Don't forget too like. I'm on Facebook at facebook dot com, slash the Outlaws Radio. Follow us on Twitter and Instagram at the Outlaws Radio. Miss on Mali. How are you? Uh? You know what. I'm good. I'm great, Like you know what I mean. I'm breathing, I'm healthy. Uh, life be kicking my butt a little here and there, but you know, I'm philiping all right, working a little a little too much, but you know how much I'm good. I'm good. You were just talking about before the show started. You were just talking about your bad ass cat. It is a tiger. Listen, it is a miniature tiger. I don't know what else to say, Like, if I don't feed him, yes, if I don't feed that cat like, he will eat me. I mean, let's just say. I just want to put it out there. Anybody that is listening. If you don't know, now you know orange hair cats are. They are a different breed in their own Okay, I do not recommend unless you like you know, I mean, I think they bury like they either might be mean or they just might be extremely hyper or as. So yeah, I love like I don't want any animal people coming from me because I love animals. I love cats, I love dogs. The cat that I have before passed away was one of the most affectionate animals I've ever known in my life, and I hate the fact that that he's not here. But so I love animals. Don't get me wrong. But there's a friend of mine, a very dear friend of mine, who has uh these dogs, right, I forget what kind of dogs ain't, but my dear friend I hate her dogs. They It does not matter how many times you go to this person's house, they still gonna bark at your ass like they don't know you. I mean, I mean, I get it because at the same point, you know, my dog, my dog. My brother has a dog. I believe he is like a little wiener dog. But he he every time bars, you know, because you know, with family, I don't knock on their door. I'll just be like, hey family, Hey here, yeah brother. But so like when I go to walk into his house, immediately his dog starts barking, and I'm like, fucking, it's just me like it's cool, it's cool, and he'll sniff around and he'll be cool, like all right, let me go mind my business. Cool. So I get it. They just you know, that's there, that's their home, so they like cool, they kissed my ass, right, I can't. I went over there one day, right, I went over to my friend's house and the dog I'm pulling the dryway. The dog gets standing up like like it's a grown ass man looking out the window. I'm like, oh, hell no, that sounds like something out of like the Friday movies or something like you're stand out there all all cock diesel with his muscles out, or we're just going to what kind of dog dog look like you fresh out the pin? Hell dog? This dog, this dog got a record, This dog been in this dog was in jail. This dog got a haco bread. He just got out to kill on you a convict time right up the comic dog right there. I'm like, oh hell, you know what, I don't even want to visit no more. I'm just get back at my fire. I'm like, oh, I never been standing up like standing up with his with his arms out like like oh wow, like do something. I'm like, what the hell? He's looking out the window like buck the fool dang. So it's kind of like a like a how the king rad a kangaroos, like when they're standing up. The Kikaroo's got all these bluffles and muscles and they're just like like they're about the two piece, right, don't stand it out the windows. I was saying, oh damn, you know what you know? On the topic of the animals, I will say that Darvio and Dante will probably not ever comes to my house unless I put my cat. No, and again, I love cats, but if you can attact me, I'm drop kicking this little I mean, I mean, do what you gotta do, Do what you gotta do. I mean I can't say that I haven't been there, you know where. I'm like, no, come back, here. Don't run you was just step a minute ago, like, don't you start scared a person like you want to just spoke? Come on now, come on now, listen. That is funny. Oh my lord. All right, So we have a special interview that we're gonna get to right now. All right, we have a very special guest on the show today. He is running for Cayahoga County Court of Common Please, Judge Ray Tororostic, Welcome to the show. How you doing there, good, Darby? How you doing good? I'm good? So you know I see here that you come from a working class background. Talk a little bit about that, Talk about it, a little bit about what it was like growing up in your household. Yeah, so I grew up outside of Youngstown area mom, my dad, and my younger brother. My dad got his start working on the railroad and it was an industrial tool salesman. My mom was a stay at home mom, and we grew up in a little little one bedroom apartment, one bedroom, one bath apartment and really working class and got those working class values right, I mean, hard work and determination and education was very very important. I was the first person in my family to ever go to college, first person ever go to graduate school. Only person ever go to law school. And that's all because of the sacrifices that you know, my my parents made, and my mom and dad maide and and you know, like all all generations, like all parents, all parents want to have, you know, their children have a better life than them and to excel in things more than they have done. And those are the values and the sacrifices of my mom and dad made that quite frankly are giving me the opportunity to sit here and talk to you tonight. Absolutely, so talk a little bit about what when you were first interested in the legal field in the first place, What made you decide to go to law school and decide to enter into the legal field. Yeah, that was probably back wow, probably even back in high school. I mean I loved h I loved everything that was about about the law. Uh, I'm not going to argue or or or deny it. And I loved I love to argue everybody now, every young child now that wants to become a lawyer or young adult now that wants to become a lawyer, like, you know what, I'll be great because I'm a great you know. I love to argue. I loved the debates. I'm really good at that, and that was the same way. That was the exact same way. But you know, as you grow up, you find out that that's not really That's not really what it's all about. You know, It's about helping people. It's about listening. It's about understanding you know, or other people are coming from. It's not always about arguing your point. And sometimes the people that are the best debaters, the best arguers, aren't really don't necessarily make the best lawyers. You know, I'm great at arguing my point, but it's important that I understand where you're coming from too. It gets back to a lot of things that I've been talking about over the the course of the last year and a half in campaign is empathy. You need to understand what's important to people and people that come into your courtroom, or clients that you have, or anybody that comes into your life. Absolutely so. So you enter into legal profession, talk a little bit about what you've done since you since you passed law school and all that good stuff. Talk a little bit about your career. Yeah, so when I first started, you know, people say, when you go in business for yourself, you hang your shingle out to start working. I did that. I got out of law school and I was a solo practitioner and did whatever came in the door, just to keep that door open. And I remember the first case I had, it was it was a quart appointed case. You know. I like to like to tell people that when you when you watch TV and you hear the the the police officer say, you know, if you can't afford an attorney, one will be appointed for you. That was me the first six years of my career. That's what I did. I did criminal defense work and I did court appointed work for people that couldn't afford lawyers for themselves. I did it for six for six years, along with anything else that came in the door, uh to uh, to keep that door open, like I said. And then after that I had an opportunity to become and it is some prosecutor. Uh. And this is some prosecutor and a unique way. I think we've all we've all heard about him. I think I have an understanding of the of the treatment courts, the drug courts, the treatment alternative courts. UH, there's mental health courts, veterans courts. So I had a great opportunity to become the prosecutor for the the drug courts back in Mahoney County where I grew up, and I did the juvenile drug court, and I did the misdemeanor drug court, in the felony drug court, I was in charge of all of those, and I'll tell you that was the most rewarding part of my entire career was being able to help people that truly don't belong in the legal system. They are people that are dealing with their own personal issues and struggles, and if you can help them find the tools that they need to address those issues that they have, they're not going to be in the legal system. And there are people that probably don't belong in the legal system to begin with. Really, the most rewarding part of my entire career were those six years I spent doing that, spent two years after that as an assistant attorney to almost two years as an Assistant Attorney General for the State of Ohio, and the last fifteen years I've been working here in Cleveland doing primarily civil litigation on the defense side. So over the course of my entire career, I've been a criminal defense lawyer. I've been an assistant prosecutor, and I've done the civil work on both the plaintiff and the defense side, so I'm pretty much seen just about everything that will go before the court. Which is one of the reasons why I decided to do this is after a long career, almost a thirty year career, and having seen just about everything from the attorney side, I figured, you know, I'll take those talents, those experiences that I've learned over those thirty years. Like I like to say, the successes I've had, the failures I've had, because we all fail along the way, and we learned lessons from all of that and take that to the bench. And this opportunity arose, and that's why I'm pursuing this. We're talking the Raytaristic who's running for Caya County Common Police Court judge. And on that note, talking a little bit more about your run for judge, what you think you can bring to the bench, all that good stuff. Yeah, So you know, it's been an amazing run. We started talking with folks probably back, I think, no, right right after the November elections in twenty twenty two. So it's been almost a year and a half now and it's been a wonderful experience. It really has. I mean I have gone places and met people that I would have never gone to and never met, but for doing this all across the county, and I've gotten to meet people from different walks of life, different perspectives, different views, different backgrounds. It's just been an amazing, amazing experience in doing this and running for judge. And I would I would recommend to anybody if you really really want to get to know your community that you live in, get involved in public service in some way, shape or form, because you really do. You get a chance to meet some wonderful people and find out what's really really going on in the community and what's really important to people in their communities, and you know what's important to you know, people who live in Rocky River is different from people that live in Westlake, which is different from people who live in Ward three or or Ward nine or people out in Seoulon. But we're all part of the same same Cuyahoga County community. And it's it's been a great experience going in just about every single neighborhood in every single place in this county over the last year and a half, getting to meet people, getting to hear what their concerns are, getting to learn about them and about where they live. It's just been terrific. You know, I tell people when you asked me my background, you know, that's what I bring to the bench, and that's what the campaign started off with, was this is what I'm bringing, right, I'm bringing almost thirty years of experience. I'm bringing all my background as a defense lawyer, as a prosecutor in the civil But you know, I've really come around to the realization that I'm also bringing everybody else's experiences that I've met over the course of the last year and a half. You know, I understand what's important to people in various parts of this community, and I'm taking those experiences to the bench too. And those are experiences that I never had before and that I'm so grateful that I've been able to have over the past year and a half. You know, some of the things that I'd like to accomplish, you know, I mentioned the drug courts and the treatment alternative courts. They're fabulous opportunities here and we have them here in Cuyahoga County, and I would like to become more involved in those and hopefully one day if I'm successful getting to the bench, hopefully one day finishing my career as a drug court prosecutor I'm sorry, drug court judge or or mental health court judge. I've seen the impact that the court can have on people who are struggling in those ways, and that to me would just be the most amazing way to finish my career in the legal system. So those are some of the things that have brought me to this, some of the the motivations I've had for for running for judge, and the great experiences I had along the way. M HM. And you mentioned something earlier, and I wanted to kind of circle back to that a little bit. You've been on the prosecution side and of the defense side throughout your legal career. You know, not every a judge or judicial candidate can necessarily say that talk a little bit about why that's important to have that experience, to have been able to see, if from both the prosecution side and the defense side, how that will make you a better judge. Yeah, and you know what, Dorvey, I'm glad you said that about having a different perspective, because that's really important. That gets back to that word I used earlier, which was empathy. You know, you need to understand what's important to everybody. And one of the things that I bring to as a candidate to running for judge is that everybody that comes into that courtroom, I can empathize with them. I can understand where they're coming from. You know, if somebody comes in, I can understand what's important to the defendant that's in that courtroom. I can understand what's important to the defense attorney that's in that courtroom. I can understand what's important to the prosecutor or to the victim. Right. But I can also understand on the civil side, because we sometimes forget about the civil side of the court. It's just as important. You have just as many cases on the civil side, but we sometimes we forget about that. But I know it's important to the person that just lost a loved one on an operating table. And I know what's important to the person that got involved in a car accident, right is suing or being sued by somebody. And I know it's important to a person that you know hired somebody do some work on their house, and you know that person, you know, took off with the money and that Worke didn't get done, or that Worke didn't get done, you know, properly. And you know, I think it's important that that whoever is sitting on the bench understand all of those perspectives. And and the only way I think you can do that is if you've either been that person or you've represented that person. Uh. And I've been that criminal defense lawyer, I've been that prosecutor. I've been the person representing people who have lost somebody on an operating table or somebody that got involved in a car accident. And I can understand the perspective of all those people. And I think sitting on the bench, you know, that gives me a unique perspective as a judge that anybody that walks in that courtroom, I've I've walked in their shoes before, even from from the different types of attorneys there are. You know, there are some attorneys are solo practitioners, and some attorneys work for the government, work for the county, uh, some work for law firms. UH. And I've done all of those things, so I understand what's where they're coming from too. You know. I even I even sat as a juror while I was a lawyer. Uh so. I you know, most people who see this will probably never be im courtant. If they are a court most likely they'll probably be called for jury duty. You know what. I know what's important to that person too, how that takes the time out of your day, how important that is to the system. But the sacrifices the jurors make to have to go and become a part of an integral part of our system. So just by anybody that walks in that courtroom and just about any type of case, I've been that person. I think that's important and I think that's one of the things that sets me apart from from other candidates that might be running. We're talking with the rays Rosik who is running for Kya Holy Kauty common please court judge. And as we start to wind down here, I wanted to circle back again. I know you mentioned that you are that you were the first near family to graduate college. Correct, that's right, man. I as a working class kid myself, I can relate to that. So, you know, talk a little bit about what that what that means to have that working class background in this profession. Not a lot of people have that. You know what I mean, so talk a little bit about how that gives you an additional perspective as well. Yeah, you know, I think coming from that working class background, uh and being that first person to go to college uh and graduate from college. You know, there's there's there's something that motivates you, right, There's something that that makes you want to work hard. It makes you want to make your parents proud of the person of the person that you've become. And uh, and recognize that all the love, all the sacrifices that they they they they have given you, that you've you've use that to your full advantage and you've you've made the most of all of that. That's very important to me. That's very important to me. And you know, it also gives you, like I said, a certain drive, a certain energy. Uh. You know what it's like not to have certain things, uh and you work hard to attain them. And you know what it's like for people don't have an education, or don't have an opportunity, or don't have a great deal of means uh in their life. Uh, And you work hard and you strive hard or that you know. I like to say that I got my start practicing law as a street lawyer and you're scrappy and you do what you need to do, uh to like as I said earlier, to keep that door open and do what you need to do to become you know, successful and whatever that whatever that word success means to each individual. But you know, growing up like that was the best thing that could have could have ever happened to me. It gave me a strong work work ethic. Uh. It gave me some strong values. H it made me the person I am today. And UH, like I said, if I, if I didn't have that that in my life, if I didn't have those those experiences growing up, if I didn't have the love and the sacrifice of my parents, uh, I wouldn't be here talking to you. I certainly certainly would not have this opportunity, which is a tremendous opportunity, uh that that I've been afforded uh to to to have an opportunity to uh be hired by you, to be hired by by all of your listeners, uh to take on a great responsibility. And you know that that's the word I use very very uh very specifically. You know people say, well, judges have a lot of power. No judges don't have a lot of power. Judges have a lot of responsibility, and it's a responsibility that you and people who are listening and then and the voters here in Cuyahoga County are giving to us or giving to to urt us as potential judges or as judges. Uh, you hire us and you give us those type of that type of responsibility, and it's one that shouldn't be taken lightly and should be recognized. And I think my background, my background makes me realize that, yeah, that's a tremendous responsibility and one that I'm not going to take lightly. And just like I've never I've never done anything to disappoint my family and my parents with the sacrifices and opportunities they gave me, I can assure you that if I'm given this opportunity by you and by your listeners and by the voters of Kyahoga County, I will always remember that that that's a tremendous responsibility and I won't let any of you down for giving me that opportunity to do that. We're talking with Ray Tarasik, who's running for Kyahoga County Court of Common Please judge and to switch gears here real quick. Is a question that we asked that we've asked several people who are running for office just to give us a little bit of a of a more taste of their person now, the outside of whatever it is they're running for. So, if I were to have raised phone right now and go into his Spotify, what's on his playlist? What do you miss? You know? Man, I'm I'm old school man. I'm a child of the seventies and the eighties, So yeah, I got a lot of stuff on there from the eighties. But you know, I think there's a certain timeframe of music that I missed because I was in school, so like nineties and early two thousands. I'm just starting to get into now. I mean that was the time when I was I wasn't really spending much time enjoying myself and starting my practice off and being in law school and everything. So I'm just I'm just getting into all that stuff now. But I'll tell you what I like. Everything. I like every type of music and and just the arts in general. Man, Every type of music, every type of movie, all that kind of stuff. I had a lot of that in my background growing up, and I just think that's that's a tremendous form of expression that that's out there. But yeah, you had to check out my Spotify right now, I've probably got stuff that a lot of your listeners uh are going to call classic. But I guess maybe maybe because I'm a little classic too, right, I'm a little classic too. But uh yeah, It's it's funny as you get older, man, things things that you thought we were kind of cool back in the day, it's they become classic classic music real quick. Well, you know, I can, I can. Uh, I'm starting to be able to relate a little bit to that. As I see uh, newer artists redoing songs that I grew up with, I'm like, wait a minute, that song isn't old enough to be redone yet. Oh yeah it is? Yeah, yeah, yeah it is. And you know what, and we're we're old enough to remember the original one and and and like both of them, right, and like both versions too, because it's kind of cool, right when they put their new twist on on the new artists put their their their twist on music that I grew up on. That's kind of cool. And I got both of them, so I got like sometimes I got two three versions of one song that I grew up on that's being redone now because they're just really cool versions on the same song. So no, you're not classic yet. You're not classic yet. We're all going to get there. We're all going to get that. That's right. That's all right. Let everybody know how to They want to get more information about the campaign. They want to get more information about you, your website, social media, auditive plug stuff. Yeah. So, uh again, my name is Ray Tterassic uh and uh. It's a difficult name to pronounce, an easy name to to to spell. It's it pronounces like Jurassic Park Terassic, but it looks like tera suck t A r A s u c k uh and Terassaic for judge. Is the website you can look me up on. You can look me up on Facebook. My personal Facebook's out there, Ray Tarassic, Uh the campaign website and uh and Facebook is out there. So anybody wants to give me a shot out on on on Instagram or on on Facebook. Please feel free except accepting all new friends and all new connections now across across the county, all across north east Ohio. So again, it's Ray Terassic. Last name T A R A s U C. K. Darvey. Thank you very very much for this so oppertny Man. I really appreciate it absolutely, man, and thank you so much for coming on the show and spending some time with us. We appreciate it. Have a good night. Thanks all right, stay tuned. We have Tea Time with Rowe coming up next here from the outlawsome true sir, pray, welcome back, welcome back and listening to the Outlaws, and now is the time to show them we like call tea Time. We'll row turn it up infication, the latest celebrity news and gossip explation. It's Tea Time with Roe on the Outlaws Radio show. You what all right, y'all? So we actually got a few of things going on here at Tea Time. Okay, So first and foremost, you know, I think a lot of the things that I got for you today is it's tea but it's a lot of serious things and a lot of people can relate or understand. Uh. First, I do want to start off with Wendy Williams. As we know, like she was having a lot of complications during her time of having her own talk show. I think at one point she did like pass out, you know, some years back, like a live television kind of thing. So she's she's been dealing with a lot of health issues. One of the things that she was diagnosed with is dementia, and she's I think it was some other stuff that she was also diagnosed, but she is, she's dealing with a lot of things. And now they have a documentary on her basically, like it's a kind of like a live kind of thing or pre recorded where she's like basically open with her life and just being and just watching her in the in the raw the raw form of what she what it's like currently has how her life is Wendy Williams first and foremost, I will say that basically, you know, she's got she she came out and said that she's she's broke, like you know, these people have come after her for money. You know, she's got things go, a lot of things going on, a lot of a lot of things going on. And allegedly her producer reached out and was like, hey, you know, you need to come back to work basically, and you know, and you know, her family and along with Steve Wilkos. I don't know if anybody know who knows who that is. But he was the security guard on Jerry Springer and also had his own talk show. I think he's still may but he's He came out and he spoke on it, and he was saying, what they are showing is somebody that is not you know, it's not protecting her. And they're saying like they're protecting her, but they're not protecting her, like they're basically basically just like, this is an embarrassing situation. Why would you do that? Why why would you target this woman like this? I mean Wendy, yes, yes, I'll say this, Wendy Williams. She was the gossip diva, if you may. She was the one that put all the dirt out on everybody and nobody did not like that. You know, a lot all the celebrities and stuff. She would be like, oh so and so did this. They look at that, and girl, you need to get it together and you know, et cetera, et cetera. And a lot of people are saying about her is that, oh, this is karma or et cetera. And I feel like that that is not okay, that is not what I would say. This is karma, you know, it's I don't wish anything that has to do with somebody's health on them as a form of karma. I think that that's that's sad. You know. I agree, it's unfortunate. You know, she she has done a lot of a lot of things in her career across a lot of lines. I'll never forget her telling the world that method Man's wife had cancer before method Man's wife had a chance to tell her own family. That was probably one of the one of the low lights of some of the things that she's done. But at the same time, you know, you don't wish ill on anybody. You don't fear you know, say oh that's karma and all that, like, come on, man, Like, at the end of the day, this is a sad situation. You know. I saw that video, man, it was it was painful to watch to see her in that state, you know what I mean. I saw the they put out a little like promo clip I guess of the show, and it's like, you know, I don't take any you know, I wasn't the biggest fan of Wendy Williams. I mean, who could take any joy out of that? You know what I mean? And you better be careful, man. You better be careful what you wish for. You better be careful about how you talk about people when they're going through stuff, because you never know what's going to uh hit your door, you know what I mean. That's that's like it's speaking things into existence or speaking things upon yourself basically. Well, I mean, the Bible says you reap what you sew, so you know, if you sew in that you may reap it. So that I don't take no joy out of that. It was sad to see her in that state. You know, I agree with Steve will Coos. There are people that's not looking out for her to even put her in that position. It's just people just trying to squeeze every last dollar they can get from her, you know what I mean? Are relevant? So I just I don't know. It's just a sad situation altogether, all right. So we're gonna I'm gonna, I'm gonna switch it up a little bit on this one because I don't want to go you know, sad and then you know, the whole emotional the whole time. So we're gonna switch it up a little bit. So this one I found to be pretty uh funny. I mean it's interesting and it had me laughing because, yeah, so Terrence Howard order is ordered to pay nine are he ordered to pay nine hundred thousand dollars in back taxes after saying it's it's a moral for the US government to tax descendants of slaves. And I I thought that that was the funniest thing because I mean, first and foremost, I mean, shout out to him, bravo for you know, speaking up and he always I love that he voices his opinion and he's very honest, and not everybody is ballsy enough to do that, right, But I thought that was great. And you can't. That can't happen. That's not a thing. It's not a thing, you know, it's not, unfortunately, but he was a great reach. So here's the thing. Two things. When that, First of all, shout out to Terrence Howard, Cleveland's own Terrence Howard. He's from Cleveland, so shout out to Terrace Howard. But as a descendant of slaves, I wish this were true. I wish it worked to lize that, but it does it. Brother, you probably knew it didn't when you I mean what they say it doesn't hurt to try, right right, Like, yeah, you know, I'll give it a shot in the dark. See if this works like you do. This didn't work. So like I said, as a descendant of slaves, I wish it works that way, but it didn't. Brother paid a nine hundred thousand dollars bills. So you don't end up like Wesley Snipes when Wesley Snipes had to go with Western Snipes with the prison because he didn't believe and it wasn't because of racing, if I recall correctly, he didn't believe he had to pay taxes because he didn't think the government was legitimate or something like that. Like there are all kinds of like arguments out there and conspiracy theories as to why you shouldn't have to pay your taxes, some of the sibilidity tool. But at the end of the day, man, that stuff don't work. Man, pay your taxes man, you know, And it's you know what, if you really sit down and think about it, it's like, why do we pay taxes anyway? Okay, Like let's think about this, DARBYO, I mean all together, right, So you have to pay taxes when you when you're when you get paid, right, they take taxes out of your check. Right, then when you get your check, you gotta buy stuff. Or yeah, when you get your check, you gotta buy stuff. Then you get taxed for that stuff. Like it's just like okay, wait a minute, like you just come on now, why you're doing the absolute most like still out well you know they always don't have their handout, that's man. And then when you do your taxes, you get taxed for taxes like and then like what's what's crazy? And a lot of people complain about this, like the way our taxes are it penalizes success, like even even like the way our programs and stuff work, like if you make a few more dollars, they punish you, you know what I mean, Like you get dropped off of certain things and all this, like it's just you know, it's it's it's not they don't reward success, like they should be encouraging people to make money. We should be our whole Like I'm a big believer in like what they call the opportunity agenda, Like I think our whole government should be focused on providing opportunities for Americans to make money. Mm hmmm, because come on, are we like, are we not here together? Or like right? I thought that's what this is supposed to be. Like we we we both supposed to be one big happy family here, okay, and we're not. We're not a bunch of siblings fighting here and it's just not cool right well, and they are like the government. I spent all this money overseas, but I don't want to give you nothing. Yeah, it's crazy, crazy, So I feeling so I feel ter's howard, but period, you know this this ain't it don't work like that. Like first y'all was doing this, you know, you know you didn't you like they did they you know you guys did this. And then you turn around and you basically you screwing you know, you screw people again like coming and going yep, come now does it end? Is there an ending? They screwing you, they're screwing you, coming and going. Pause, Nay, you cannot say next. So the next one put myself together here, So the next one. I think a lot of people can relate to this, and not even just as as far as far as what sweety uh is saying, but just in general of things like your career and just you know, things that your dreams that you're chasing, or just living a daily, day to day life, whatever it is that you're passionate about or doing or trying to achieve, whatever it is. So she opens up about feeling insecure as an artist. I just felt myself giving up and I don't want to do that anymore. And this is what she said. And I truly feel this, you know, deep in my heart. I feel this because I went through something recently like that, you know, as I'm currently getting back into my modeling and you know, I had a moment in my life where it's like, you know, I was thinking, well, do you know what, maybe I shouldn't do my modeling anymore, Like what's the point. Oh, I'm getting to be you know, older, and you know, I'm not going to achieve these things. I'm not gonna make it in time, Like it's impossible. Where it's like you go do these things and then you're like trying to pull yourself out of this dark place, and it's literally the hardest thing in life is once you're down in that hard place and you're trying to pull yourself up and you're trying to chase something that you absolutely have a passion for It's just it's hard. It's hard. So you know, shout out to everybody who does you know, when you fall down, you get back up, you keep going, you know, just don't give up. Yeah, yeah, I mean I think we've all had those moments. We all have those moments of self doubt. Man, you're not human if you don't, you know what I mean. So yeah, I get that and totally understand. Man, But like you said, you got to continue to You just gotta keep going. You gotta keep going no matter what I think. That is. Like, you know, people ask me, like, you know, what advice would you give of And the only advice that I can give, Like, the only thing that I did and I've done and continue to do is I just didn't stop. I just didn't quit, you know what I mean. Like, if you are on the right path, if you on if you're doing you know what God puts you on this earth to do, and you've done, You've done the work, You've study whatever your craft is, you've become good at it. You know how to do whatever it is you're trying to do. Eventually you will make it. You will hit you know what I mean? Like you never know how long it takes. You know, for example, Steve Harvey was in his late thirties, but when he first became successful and Jelly Row gave a speech about that about him being someone his age winning best New Artists, Right, So you never know how long it's gonna take. Sometimes you know it takes longer or shorter than others for certain people. But at the end of the day, if you're if you're using your God given talents and abilities, and you're following the path that God gave you, and you've done the work to make sure that you're good at what you do, just don't stop. Just keep going. Like we're always gonna have We're always gonna have those moments of self doubt. We all have self doubt. But the one thing, like the one piece of advice that I could give anybody is just don't quit. I felt that. I felt that because, like I said, for me, I took that once you once you hit a certain place in life, especially if it's something that really shatters you, for example, you know, or just knocks you down entirely, and it's like it's like for me example for me, for example, because I can't speak on anybody else's you know, personal lives. Me for example, you know, it's like I got knocked down, you know, after my dad. You know, I'm losing my father, and you know it at first it didn't seem like it hit me. But then over time, I just slowly just broke down and just I just wasn't doing it no more. I wasn't doing my modeling no more. I wasn't getting into the acting no more. You know. I mean like so, and it's like you say, and I do not quit. I absolutely agree, because it is really hard to get back going or to get back up to where you were. Like for example, for me, I started my modeling in two thousand, I want to say eighteen. I started getting into the modeling. I then became published in twenty twenty two or wait twenty three, but yeah, it was twenty twenty two and twenty twenty three. I started to become published, and you know, I ended up in commercials, and you know, things just started happening. I started meeting a lot of big names and doing big things. So you are absolutely right, Darmil, that is honestly the best advice that you could that anybody could give. Yeah, just don't give up as long as you as long as you follow in the path and you've done the work. I mean, because because it's not like if you if you haven't done the work, then you're not really serious about it, and then you shouldn't be doing it. So if you are following the path and you've done the work, yeah, just stick with it. You got anything else. I don't necessarily have any tea, but I do want to say just a personal thing. I just have to say, as a woman, Happy Women's History Month to all of my ladies. That's all I'd like to say, Happy Women's History. That's right, that's right. It is the beginning of Women's History Month, and happy Women's History Month. There are amazing women that have done amazing things, made incredible contributions to this country and the world. So shout out to all of y'all. Shout out to all of the FCB women that we got around here. This is a organization that has quite a bit of women doing, you know, quite a bit of incredible things. And of course I can't if we're gonna talk about Women's History Month, I can't do that without shouting out my mama period. That's right. Shout out to shout out to your mama as well, you know, and every every woman that's that's holding it down out there. All right, before we go, we're gonna do this. We're gonna do this. Here we have you had an interesting little thought experiment that we can talk about because we're getting older, so we fit, so we fit the description. Uh, tell her what this is? Neil will answer. All right, So this is a question, and this is for anybody that is born and all the people that are born before for nineteen ninety. Okay, what trivial skills do you possess that no one uses anymore? Oh? Man, So that's a great question. It also makes me feel really old, you know. I'm trying to think like it. Like see, I don't consider this to be trivial, but nobody does it anymore. And it's unfortunate that they don't do it, because I still think people should learn it. I'm not a writing cursive. They don't teach that anymore. Teach school no more. No, my daughter actually learns that on YouTube. Yeah she self teaches yes, wow wow, But I agree they don't. They don't teach cursive anymore. I'm going to say I mean, I can. I can give you quite a few things that people have said, so I do have some responses from from people. If that's where I can go, all right, let's do it. Let's do this. Give me your response first, and then what is your skill that nobody does any Let's see. Oh wow, I got a few of them. So the first one I'm going to say is the antenna on top of the TV right where you have to put the aluminium on the end of the where you gotta put the aluminum or like try to move it around and hang it all different places. That was a skill. It was definitely just liked this this channel went out, okay. And I would say another one would be changing the TV channel with the pliers. Yeah, that's a skill that was That was hell okay. Yeah, it was very difficult, especially if you had like like a little small knob and broken it was broken that big old bulky block TV. I think that's I think that's just a poverty conversation. We just that just tells you how we both grew up. Dang, not your age and where you how you grew up? Right like that, that just means we both were poor. I mean, listen, I could tell some stories there. But so some of the comments I will say. One person says, hell time on a real clock. Okay, I feel that. I feel that. Another person and says not relying on a backup camera on a car. Okay, now here's my thing. I love my backup. Another person says memorizing phone numbers and that is a fact because I know I used to when I can't anymore, Like I think these stupid phones have taken that skill away from us. Yeah, that's a good one. It is, because I'm like, dang, you know what, I really need to start writing these phone numbers down an actual book. I'll be messing some phones up. Somebody says, respect my elders. Yeah, yeah, I don't think that. I don't do that. I don't think that's a menial skill. That's a very important skill. That's something that they still should be doing, these little badasses. But yeah, another person says covering a textbook out of paper bags. Oh man, Yeah, yeah, I used to hate that too, man like, because I was never really good at it, you know what I mean. You know, like there was some you have some people that face that were like pros, that were like pros at the book cover. Like I never knew how to do it. I always be like, hey, friend, can you do this? I did it, but but I sucked at it. It was always bad. I always did those string things, like the plastic strings where you start braiding them and like this weird square block type of thing. I could do that. So anyway, another person said, using an encyclopedia, I couldn't even know. Wow. Yeah yeah, yeah yeah, using adary go ahead, I mean true. Yeah, Like back then you had to go and actually look up the words, look up the meaning, write it down and put it like you would have to. Like then, we literally had to actually use our brains and like and it wasn't even about whether you were smart or stupid. It was about just self educating and and strengthening your brain, you know what I mean. And it's like now we just all we go on YouTube or we see on social media or people are telling us this and that. You don't even know the facts. Man, you're just going with whatever the hell everybody that somebody else said knocking a T knocking on a TV? Are not knocking a TV on the back a few times to fix it the picture? Or what about blowing into those video games. How we used to have to blow into that. Yeah, man, I mean we can honestly keep going and going like there's uh, what about the cassette tapes where we had to rewind and hit record and and and all that at the same time and take a pencil and run it through the inside of the I was just about to say that when the take gets out a little bit. Yeah, yeah, man, there there. I can keep going on and on and on like there's I mean, let's somebody all right, So, I mean a lot of people are saying cursive using an actual paper map. I only did that maybe once or twice, Like I always got confused that paper maps. But no, listen, I if I drove back in the day, I would be entirely screwed. I would be screwed. Do you think I get lost using a GPS? Okay, I get lost using the GPS. And I cannot even imagine the paper Okay. I was always in the passenger seat, like, yeah, turned this way, Oh my bad, that was the wrong way. Like somebody we all said using a typewriter. Oh man, I used to have a typewriter, Like I learned how to type on a typewriter. Yeah, I honestly, it's fun. It is so fun, just like you know that little clique sound and then you push it. Yeah, give back on another line, like yeah, man, you know what, what's interesting? And I still somebody say this on Twitter, like two weeks ago, they were talking about how interesting and intriguing our side of the generation is. So we're millennials, but we're on the older end, so like there is and I don't know if any other generation is quite like this, where the older end of the millennials for the most part, are very different than the younger end of the millennials, the ones that are closer to Gen Z. And part of that is because our generation, we are the last group of people who were not born with technology. We weren't born with the Internet and social media and all this. We're old enough to remember when it started, Like I was. I think I was out of high school when they first started Twitter, you know what I mean? So like I think Twitter started in like two thousand and six, if I recall correctly, it's crazy. I never knew that. I honestly didn't get on social media until after I was I think until I til I was about twenty twenty twenty one. I didn't start getting on social media right, like I remember, like when Facebook had really started hitting, Like you couldn't get on it. You had to have college because it was just for college students and it was still called the Facebook, Like you had to you had to have a college email address or whatever. And this was before yeah, like you had to have a college email And this is before I went to this, before I went to Liberty University, Like this was just this was after I went to Ohio Media School, which was Ohio Catey for broadcasting. At the time, you didn't get no email address or anything like that. It's a trade school, so you could even get to Facebook for a few years when they first started. So like we're old enough to remember what it was like, what the world was like without this stuff, Like when I got my first when I got I got my first cell phone my freshman year in high school, and it was one of them block pull up joints where you pull up the antenna and all of that. And the only and the only reason I even got that cell phone my father bought me that phone. Because this was after nine to eleven. Everybody was freaked out and so they was like my folks was like, we want you to be able to get in contact with us. Wow, if you need to. That was the only reason I got to sell it, I believe, wasn't the rotary phone was still kind of around that it was around. It was a for sure. They were in our classrooms. I mean I remember in junior high because when nine to eleven happened, the rotary phone was still in our classrooms and we still had like we used our freaking house phone were the little twisty turley wires, you know. So that's crazy. I mean honestly when we were growing up, like because me and you were, I think, what a year apart something like that. But back then, I will see I didn't have a cell phone, so like years years later, but when I was growing up, because I'm the youngest of all my siblings, but I remember all of them having pages and that was like the first technology type of thing, and so we always use payphones and rotary phones. Yeah, like that's crazy, and you know it's first and foremost. It's like my ten year old she was like, so when she when she refers to like my age or like when I was growing up, not all the way back and then like back then, like when she says things, I'm watching mouse like because that world is so different, like and it's funny you said, like I remember payphones when they actually worked, like yeah, like I still remember those, Like I remember you talked about the pages like I used to get I used to have a pager in like the fifth grade, sixth grade because basically my father would have he would get pages and whenever he would get a new one, he would give me his old one. Wow. I was like I was like the only fifth and sixth grader with a page and they thought I was selling drugs like man, I mean, and you know back then, you know, and it's like, well you used to go to the skating ring. You know, everybody wants to skating bring back. Yeah, And it's like we would we would have to dial like like was it zero, I don't remember. Would dial and you can call somebody, but you don't speak to them. You just leave a message like we ready, like you all your parents like yeah, I'm ready, come get me, but you like you don't get to say too much. Were ready? Yeah. I remember the hotlines we used to call like a little like little let's see, let's see. Wait, the donut donut. Oh my god, I couldn't remember none of the names. There was the New York something, New York something, because my sister used to go on that one. I think the donut one. I was always on that one. Ye Oh, I got in trouble. Question fews, ma'ma picked up the phone on the other end. Get off the phone. You forget on that thing to talk to chicks and stuff. You'd be meeting random girls. Everybody just be sitting up there kicking it on like this hotline. Don't even know. We don't even Yeah, that is the world that like, like nobody like they don't even recognize. Like, man, that's so foreign to them. But I will say this and we'll close with this, Like you brought up about the skating rink, And you know I used to go to the skating rink all the time, not because I was a good skater, because I wasn't, but I went up there to talk to girls, right like that. But most of the boys, if you didn't skate, you still went to the skating rink because that's where the girls girls. Right, So you know, I thought about that, man, and I think about it a lot like I think about like kids today, man, and the stuff that they're missing out on because the world is just so different now and a lot of things that we had, even for kids like us who like we didn't have a lot growing up, but we still have moments where we were able to be a kid, you know what I mean, We were able to have a to have a childhood and know what a childhood looks like. Like the stuff that these kids are dealing with now and going through now and the things that have been taken away from them, it's like it's like, man, like they don't they don't have them missing so much like so many things that we have. They they that we had. They have no idea what that is. I mean. On last note on that, I just want to throw out there because I think I said that before speaking with somebody else, was is that when you're when you say that, DARVYO is that's why a lot of our children are angry and and just that's why a lot of violence is because kids are mostly on social media and it creates a lot of aggression and anger. Yeah. Yeah, so yeah, they definitely are missing out on a lot. We we listen, we had the best of times. Okay, they missing out. They don't even know. We might be old. We might be old, but they're jealous. Mind you, you robbing was so wild. What tells you how how bad they got it is that we have We went through all this stuff and had these experiences like at the tail end of the crack, so our world. The outside world was crazy where we grew up, but we still were able to be key here. And you know what, My daughter came home the other day. You know what she said to me our chalkboard. Our board wasn't working. I'm like, what do you mean your board wasn't working? I said, don't y'all use chalk mom, No, this isn't back in your day. I'm like, what back in my day, y'all don't use chalkboards. But see, this is why you need a damn chalkboard, just in case the internet goes out, just in case the technology doesn't work. Then now y'all don't have nothing to do. Y'all don't know, like like if you ever went like I've been to a fast food place before and they don't know how to use the cask register, if no, not to count the money, like it's like, dude, like we're like, we are so used to like we we over rely on these phones and these computers, tablets and all of that, and there's so many things, so many skills that we used to have that we don't have anymore because people don't know how to do it because you don't have to yep, you know what I mean. So it's just it's just crazy man and nineties kids, I think, and even the older I get, the more that I am so grateful for being an eighties baby, like, because we know what the world looked like before this, you know what I mean. So we just I think what we have to do now, especially for those of us who are of our age, if you're listening to this and you have kids, is just to make sure that you instill some of them values that we learn with them, because a lot of these kids are growing up without without that value system that we have, and I think, you know, to Robin's point, I think that's one of the reasons why you see these kids going buck wild, you know, because this you know, technology is great, and I don't want to sell them like a technophobe, like I'm not a gift. Technology. Technology is great. Technology has allowed us to do some very incrazible things and incredible, you know, fantastic things. But technology does not have a soul, you know what I mean, Like there's still something missing, like we need where human beings. We need that human element. So make sure that you're paying attention to that when it comes to your kids, you know what I mean, because they need that, they need that human element, they need that human touch. Just putting them in front of a computer screen or TV screen or phone screen, you know, isn't always going to do it because you know this, this stuff can do everything except for half a soul, So just keep that in mind. Let him know how to follow you misself, Balley. You can follow me on Instagram at Real Robin O'Malley. You can follow me on Facebook at Robin O'Malley, and you can follow me at dB King Pennon Area where that's d T H E K I and G p I N. One more time, want to send a special shout out to Ray to Rossik coming on the show. We really appreciate it. We are out of here. We'll see you next time. This has been a presentation of the FCB podcast network where Real Talk lives, visitors online at Fcbpodcasts dot com, m
