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No, this is the FCB Podcast Network. This is pillow Talk with Ali Michelle on the FCB Podcast Network. Welcome to pillow Talk with Ali Michelle. The social media influencer who's been consumed by the censorship around me and confined by the censorship mob. So I decided to start a podcast so I can talk about whatever the hell I want. So thanks for finding me and thanks for listening. Let's start the show. She's the Deputy of Best at Freedom, Mark's advisor at the American First Policy Institute, and the host of the Keisha King Show. Keisha King, Hi, Keisha, Hello, Hi Ali, how are you? I'm good? How are you? I am doing well. It's good at Taday morning. But we're here. We're gonna do it. So so let's let's get to know you a little bit. What is it that you do? You know, just let's get a breakdown. Sure, So, I am a parental rights school choice advocate activists. I basically try to bring light to the education issues that are happening in our country, along with cultural issues and politics. You know, because all of these things that w evolve around politics all towards the next generation. So it's faith, culture, and politics, gear towards the next generation. What I do with Freedom works through Beth is helping parents to get activated, helping them understand like what's really going on in the school systems, and ultimately to get them to check out school choice because I always say, we have a short window of time to get our children educated. And I understand, you know, we want to fight for school board changes and those are definitely long term goals. But at the same time, while we're doing that, I think it's good too if you if your government school is not working for your kid, that's it's wise to explore school choice because education freedom is a thing that is going to help your child a not be indoctrinated in these indoctrination camps and give them the best chance to have a successful future. And so I'm a mother myself, I work closely with the Governor's office, the best governor in the nation, governor a long descans and just working alongside them to basically get parents fighting for promential rights and education freedom. So, um, if parents want to be more active in their school, what should be their first step? As a mom myself, I'm also dealing with some school issues. Um, so what what would be like their first step. UM. So it depends on the issue. But if it's you know, if it's something that you can take to the child's your child teacher, I would start there. You know, you don't want to borrow it up. You know, like you hear something, you're like, I'm going straight to the superintendent, you know, you know, like the measure would be reasonable. UM, try to take it up with the teacher first. If that doesn't work, then escalate it to the principle. If that doesn't work, UM to the school board, the superintendent, the districts UH that that the school board member is over in your UM, in your in your district, where you live. So school districts are they're drawn by where you live. So each district has a school board member that represents you. So you can take your complaints you know, down to the U to the school board meetings where you're speaking to the superintendent and the entire board. But you can also just contact your school board director UM through email or my phone UH directly And if that doesn't work, you know, then you hit at people like best and and our parents know Best dot com. That's where you can go to get more information and you start you know, reaching out to different people to bring to shed light on whatever that issue is. Okay, that's a lot, but I think with you know, what's what's happening. I think like for me, for example, I I've always been involved in my son's school. Um, but again we struggle a lot with like, well does the teachers know best? And you know, where where do I stand? Where do I get a voice for my child? Because it's talk to a whole it's talk wool whole channel of people. Yeah, you know, Um, even because I with my experience this year, I feel like some have overstepped me in a way. Um. We'll get into that in a second. But um, I just think a lot of parents need to become more confident and there and there's kids lives. It's not kids' eyes, but like school wise, because then we are so we are so like we're taught to just like Okay, teachers do no like we should trust what they're saying. Which I'm not saying teachers are bad. I'm not saying that at all. But you know, with today, it's getting pretty tricky with the things that are being taught. And that is true, that is certainly true. But there is no one who knows your child better than you and your child, your father, parents, no best you know, because at the end of the day, yes they are teachers, yes they you know, they're still strangers. These people are strangers. And you know, gone are the days where it's like, oh, that's little Sally down the street. Now she's a teacher. I've known our family for years, you know, most of us don't even we don't know our teacher, you know, our children's teachers like that. And I think we have to to remember these people are strangers, and sometimes they don't always know. They just don't just because they themselves have come up through this, through the system, so to speak, going to college and being educated and you know, getting a teaching certificate and all those types of things, they themselves are kind of now built have built in this idea that I am the one that knows. It's like, first of all, every child is different, and even if you know, even if they're in those same same homes, same parents, everything, they're still uniquely different and they're going through any different things. And so just because they are the teacher and you know, that doesn't mean that they know what is the best way for your child to learn. How would you like, Yes, you space spend eight hours a day, five days a week, you know, yeah, okay, but there are you can as a mother, you can look at your child and know what they're thinking that a teacher would not know. And that is something that is a god given thing that is for mothers or you know, fathers have it too, but certainly for moms, just because just the way we're naturally wired. And so I totally reject that idea that teachers know better than parents. And I think teachers should be the one respecting parents and encouraging parents to say no gives me more feedback, help me to learn better about your child. And you know, I just you know, I don't. I don't like that. I'm with you. Um, so when it came okay, so let me just so, how did you get so involved? What was there something that happened? Um? Like yeah, yeah, so um. During twenty twenty, everybody remembers COVID. Um. My oldest daughter was asked first week of eighth grade, she was asked what pronouns she wanted to go by. And so my daughter was like, mom, like, why is this? Like why is she asking me this? And so I reached out to the teacher, got no response, and I was like, okay, um, just you know, told my daughter just be vigilant. Well, same teacher, my daughter you know most you know she's a teen Well yeah, she was a teenager at this time, but you know, kids don't always listen to what you say. But I was like, you know, just be vigilant and let me know if there's anything. Well, she recorded a conversation in her class and that very same teacher um was saying. She was like, oh, we're gonna be talking about some books that had some racial themes. And while she never actually um addressed the literally of the books, she just went into like talking to the kids and saying, as a African American child, how are you discriminated against? As an Asian child, as an LGBTQ child. You know. She was just like going through all these identity groups and the children just became the classroom just became so chaotic and they were like no me, i'morps me know me. And it was just like the Oppression Olympics and the kids it was it was wild. And so simultaneously, while that was happening, the Long County Virginia. They were having their uproar about critical race theory. And what many people don't know is that people think that I just latched onto this critical race theory thing because it was a hot thing for conservatives. It's like, okay, No, I actually had studied critical race theory in twenty nineteen because of a pastor that I followed, Vodie Backham, was talking about how critical race theory had come into the church through the Southern Baptist Conference. They had actually we adopted an amendment to bring critical race theory into the church. And I was like, oh, wow, this is really crazy to bring into church because you know, as Christians, critical race theory does not align with Christian values, and so it was just it was a fascinating topic to me, and so I just was reading about it and studying it. Between the Vodie Bachum and this guy Neil Shinby, and so between the two of them, I had just learned about it just out of you know, curiosities, a little bit of a nerd that way. So when I heard it in the classroom of these the intersectionality which is a big part of critical race theory, and the teacher dividing them into their different racial groups. I knew that this was critical race theory, and so the governor had was holding a hearing at the FLOMI Board of Education to ban critical race theory. I went, I wrote my speech like kind of in the back of the room and waited till my turn went up, spoke. He retweeted that speech and went viral, and that's how I kind of got thrust into this whole, like the media side of it. Yeah, so were you always a conservative or were you? Oh, were you always a conservative? No? No, I I like to say, like, if you're a black and conservative, typically there's a story. So I was not always conservative. But after the twenty sixteen election, I was talking about BLM with night with a close family member and we were talking about, you know, black and black crime. We were talking about, you know, an armed police shooting, a police shooting on armed black man. Excuse me. And you know, obviously I feel like I always have to say this any time injustice is done, especially by people of authority, teachers, cops. You know, when you are helped, you are health to a higher standard. That should be that is not a that's an issue that we always should pay attention to not saying that that's not an important thing. He always should. But when I went to go look, I sat up, I'm gonna go look up the numbers because I really believed that there were like all these unarmed black men that were being killed unjustly by the police. And when I went to the FBI statistics and I was like, wait a minute, I didn't understand. I was like thousands of young black children who were being discriminated against, and I'm sorry, good friends who were being killed by people that looked just like them. And there was where that uprooor. And so it just prompted me to start doing more digging. And I found doctor Thomas soul, I found Walter Williams, I found Little Treatment. I was like, like my mind was blown. I could not believe. I had never heard these men speak. I had never heard the real conservative ideas. I had never heard any of it, and they really just threw my mind. And I started to question a lot of other things that I had been told, and I just realized, like, this is not what I want to do. Continue to support Democrats that are literally pushing policies that are totally against me and my family. And all the things that I believe in. And then the real transformation came when I was sitting on my couch and God took to my heart and told me that my skin color had become an eyo in my life and that that was the moment that changed everything for me. It was like ten thousand pounds had been linsed off of me. It was. It was just a real transformational moment that I realized that I could not look at as a believer. I should be looking and living my life through the lens of Christ and not through the lens of being simply just a black person. And yeah, that was the moment that like opened up the doors for me to see, Okay, you can't live your life that way, and it was unpleasing to God. Yeah, and it's crazy that they're teaching our kids to just you know that they're owed something, even anyone, you know, like the liberal side is like, oh, you're old this or you know, your old dad. But they're not teaching you can do anything you want to do, you can be anything you well be. You know, you know what I'm saying, just ins insane that um that these schools are now changing to that like so when we get back from you know, we're gonna go to break in the little lamp. Um. But when we get back, I want to touch based on um, what they said to my kid and it's just crazy, just crazy. But I think what you're doing is super awesome and it's super empowering to work and of any woman really and moms, and you know, because I think, like I said earlier, I think more parents need to be involved. For you to step up and have that courage to just say what you're saying and be who you are is super empowered and I applaud you for that. Um So yeah, um um, So Mom's for Freedom? Are you still a part of that or is that like intertwined with what you're doing? Still Mom for Liberty? Um? We work, we collaborate with different different groups, so I'm not officially with them, but we certainly work together where we can. Like we've worked together on a library work group that we were doing where we wanted to for the librarians to start vetting the books that were coming into the schools. So we've worked together on issues like that, and we work you know, we want to work with anybody who is aligned with the things that we're trying to do because it takes a lot, you know, it takes a lot of people. It takes all of us, you know, to to move this forward. So we definitely want to, you know, work with as many people that see the value and what we're doing. So yeah, work with Moms for Liberty, Moms for America, America First Policy Institute, you know, any we're open to work with you, to collaborate with people who who are like minded. Perfect. Okay, well we're gonna go to break and we'll get back to that in a minute. These days, it seems like everybody's talking, but no one is actually listening to the things they're saying. Critical thinking isn't dead, but it's definitely low on oxygen. Join me Kira Davis on Just Listen to Yourself every week as we reason through issues big and small, critique our own ideas, and learn to draw our talking points all the way out to their logical conclusions. Subscribe to Just Listen to Yourself with Kira Davis an FCB Radio podcasts on Apple, on Spotify, iHeart, or wherever you get your podcasts. Okay, welcome back. We're here with Keisha King from Keisha King show. So we were talking about, you know, the school system and parenting and whatnot, and we were talking about how you know, parents need to be more part, should be involved in all this, and how you're part of the best at Freedom Works in the advisor at American First Palestinians too. Um, but let's get into what the teacher how I got involved If that's okay? Yeah, okay, So how so I don't know, So we'll break it down into our Like I guess the last meeting that I was at with the school. Um. I won't say who, but um, you know, a faculty member. We were at a school meeting. My son had a lunched attention. I don't agree with that. I think that's bullcrap. Um. First of all, my son's on nip um. He is a strugglener, you know, a reader and writer. Um, so he just needs those little extra steps. So, UM, I didn't agree with the lunched attention. So I asked to go. I called the school. I said, you know, I want to be a part of the lunch attention. I want to sit with my kid. I want to make sure what he's doing because he had a missing assignment. Um. In a social study. So when you're when you're a struggling reader and he he has dyslexia, and I'm going to say it because that's what he has. Um, he's a struggling reader. So when you're getting get up a computer screen which is like this big how you know for him it's hard to grasp information put it in his brand and put it on paper. Right. So, um, he had a missing assignment like two or maybe two. Um, either way when he had It's very important for a child to have that social minute with their peers and to decompress. We get to decompressed in a lunch. We you know, we have our lunch. We don't have to do anything during our lunch. Why why are we making our kids work during that twenty minutes that we have to just relax for a second. Yeah, and he's in'trated. So you know they're starting to do the school the classroom transition, but you're still sitting in a school setting, still having to work. You're still having to you know, it's hard. It's ten times harder for him, is it. When you have this lecture, your brain works ten times harder than the average student. So my son is you know trying to figure out all this information's coming his way. Please excuse him for missing an assignment? Why is it? Why was it an email at home? Why can't I access my power school, which I've as a whole other story in the self. Why wasn't it written his agenda anything? And why isn't the IEP reaching out to me? So anyway, he got sent to a lunched attention with the letter on the She printed out the assignment and said lunched attention. So I called the school and I asked, can I go, oh, well, parents, never nobody's ever asked to do this before. And I was quiet, and she's like, but I'll ask. I'll ask the principle. Okay. So I get a call from the principle. He's like, yeah, no parent has ever done this. I'm not sure how we can accommodate it. And I was dead silent because I wasn't taking no for an answer. So I was just like, um, So he's like, but we can probably arrange something for you. Okay. Perfect. He's like, you can't be in the in the media center where they go for privacy reasons. I said okay. He's like, but we'll figure it out and I was like, okay. He's like, do you know what time his lunches? I was like, yes, I know what time his lunches. So I show up and I'm on time. Jacob my son's Jacob. He's already in the office and there they said, oh, she's here. They're here. Oh my gosh, they're here already. So I'm standing there. I brought him McDonald's. I brought you know, I can't prepared, like he's not in trouble, so um, they put us into the conference room. They're all peeking in, all peeking in. I can see them all like scrambling around. And it took me. It took me about fifteen minutes, no joke, to figure out what assignments he had to finish because he has the Okay, so we're going to break it down. If I was not there for the lunch attention, he would have to wait in the line to get his lunch. Okay. Takes about five five ish minutes, okay, okay, then goes up the stairs around the corner into the room, sets it all up. That's another five or ten minutes. So you mean to tell me my soul and one gets five minutes to eat. How is he going to finish this assignment? It took us fifteen minutes to find what tab it was in. I hate the electronics. I hate the computer stuff. I hate it, especially for him. It has some benefits, but at the end it's it's it's hard for them. Yeah, and we expect our kids know how to do all of this. And I understand that they teach and they show how to do it, But why are they spending so much time on the computer at school and then have to come home and do the computer work at home and then they scream at you for doing We don't have screen time for your limit the screen time, right, So we fin we only got we only got like I think half of the assignment done. And I was just he was here. So if he did not get that done, would he now have another lunch attention? Another lunch attention? Why are they not having after school or before school? So then my question is, are you, I'm going to throw it around them, are you too lazy to be there in the morning? Are you too lazy to stay after school? Why does he have to suffer his lunch minute twenty minutes, twenty twenty five minutes to do this. No, not okay with it. So we had a meeting after that and about like behavior dyslexia. Kids aren't students that struggle with dyslexia project their behavior in a way because they're so frustrated with the work. It's not me. That doesn't mean they have a behavioral issue, just mean they're so consumed with this that they it's just too much. And it wasn't even because he said a couple of one of his assignments, he wrote like, they asked do you like this book? No, why don't you like this book? It was done, that's rue. It even un to your life answered the question. So he had an answer for that. So we had a meeting. Um one of the one of the faculty members dropped the word that like, you have a disability. So now my kid was consumed all day with the word disability, disability, I have a disability. Oh my gosh, I'm doound them dumb. So now you made my son feel dumb. Um. So after he got done with this whole speed um, I had to look at my son and say, you are not dumb. I look at the faculty number and I said, and he is not stupid. The word disability does not mean you're dumb. So then he had to go back and retract why were glasses and glasses kind of helped me. It doesn't mean I can't seem I was so mad. I was about to cry um in the school, like school before this, they knew. I asked them, please do not ever drop the word disability. My son is so self conscious about yes, and he'll hear that word and he'll just think he's stupid, dumb, I'm stupid. I can't do this. And then not only did that members say that, he also said, you know, you make us proud, but I could be prouder. So now he heard he's dumb, you're not proud of him. Just a whole bunch of negative throughout that day. And then I'll requested another like an IEP modification meeting because now we're going to change everything, like getting a lunched attention, whatever, saying that word you're not ever nothing. Um. They asked me why. Your answer is to say, okay, not why, and it took me off. You know, I'm hoping my son's sitting here because he under he knew how mad I was about the lunch attention and how I don't agree with it. I hope that he was thinking, my mom doesn't even like lunched attention, you know. So, and so the reason, the fact that they asked me why just infuriated me. I just couldn't even know it. And I just looked at him and said, I just think it needs some adjustments. And that was it, you know, as I was, I'm a single mom in the school's eyes. I'm not married, you know, I have a son. He's on an IP. So I just felt like me being a single mom, I was, And I hate feeling like this, but I did feel because it was two men and a mom and my son. I just kind of felt like there should be a woman advisor in here as well to kind of have that comforting words to my son, Yeah, well here we are. And UM, but I think, you know, it's a lot of parents, you know, mother's in particular, UM, struggle with having to stand up to the school and having to because no, I do know myself, Oh I know, I do know my daughter. And the fact that you dropped that word it may not mean anything to you, but to them, um, but to them, did my radio go off, Oh you're good? Okay? Um? So to them, it's not anything different, but to me and my son, it's it's it was, it was just a circus. So so how do you feel about that? What would you yea, what do you recommend? So? Um, one of the best things that parents can do is to know the law, know the law where you live and what rights you have. And sometimes, um some states have this thing called home rule where you can basically like it's already baked in that parents have ultimately that have we have the last day. Now that's not every state, and home roll encompassing other things too, but knowing the law helps you tremendously because I guarantee you those administrators that you were sitting in front of have no freaking clue up with the laws. And when you can show that, look, I know my rights, I know um, I know the law, they will they will be quick to back up and do what is best for your son. My youngest daughter is a special needs child. When she was in um public school, she had an i ET as well. I actually pulled both of my children out and homeschool now, which I love. I just fantastic. But um, while when when you do have an i ET, they are supposed to buy law, go by what it's on that document. And when they don't do that, it's a it's a I don't know if it's we can say it's a legal document, but it's certainly a yeah, it's a binding document. UM. And when it's modified, they're supposed to adjust. And if you need a meeting to go over, that's not on the schedule meeting. UM. I've never had a I never had a problem scheduling a meeting UM outside of what was you know, the yearly review UM. If there was some things that needed to be addressed, and you should absolutely UM stand your ground when it comes to your your child as far as and I think this is UM when they are when when the teacher or whoever is saying like, oh, they have a disability and they're saying this to your child, that's your queue that these people don't know, they don't have a good grasp of childhood development. And you knowing that should give you more confidence to say I know more than them, because I know that negative reinforcement it's not good for things. I have a quick story. So one of the first op eds that I ever wrote was in the Western Journal. I was talking about critical right theory, and I was what I was saying, is this idea that you're going to constantly tell a child that they are oppressed, or constantly tell the child that they are responsible for someone else's oppression, or you know whatever. If you're constantly pushing a negative idea onto a child, it is going to have a long term repercussions of it, and eventually that will become their reality and they will live out what you're putting on them. So I did some research and I found I was just looking up like negative reinforcement and just the psychology of it. And the story that I found was there was this clinical um, this clinician psychology clinician where she had had a client that came in and he was struggling with being a being a leader, and he was he was offered despite being offered a job to in management, he still felt that he was unworthy to lead and so it was so debilitating for him. He went to seek help for it. So he's talking to the counselor and they go they traced it all the way back when he was in like kindergarten or first he was like five or six years old. He overheard his teacher tell his parents that he was not He's much. Tony's just not much of a leader, He's more of a follower. Just him overhearing that one time literally affected him for his like twenty five years later. And it's what I'm the point that I try to make with all you know, the critical race theory or just like telling children something negative over and over and over again. And I'm not saying that you have to lie to kids. It's like if they're really bad at something, you're like, no, you're great, you know, no, like, don't lie to your child, But there are definitely ways to encourage them to either get better or maybe you should pick up something different, you know, try something new. And you know this is you know you can you can encourage your child to do better without telling them that they are like not good enough or not whatever. And what we say and what kids here, it can affect them. And sometimes they don't even know how to process that information. But they'll just start acting out in a certain way because oh, they already told me that I'm disabled, or they already told me that I'm you know, I can't be anything that I want to be because of my skin color or that I am responsible for you know, two Uterdan fifty years of you know America good flavor because it might him you know, whatever the thing is that can literally damage children. And so yeah, I think you, I think perspective. I think you should look at that information and that I hope that it gives you confidence to know they don't they have no idea what they're talking about. You know, they might be good at teaching math, but they might they might not be good at the psychology of kids there. They might not be good at, you know, how to deal with behavior issues. They might not be good at different things. They might be good at just teaching math, you know. So I hope that gives you some confidence to um, to stand up for your son because he needs you to. He needs you to be his advocate more than ever. Right now, we're considering homeschooling. I've been doing my research and all that. So I think a lot of people are transitioning to homeschooling from what I'm understanding. I'm a part of this group and this girl shout out her name deep dive on on Instagram. But um, but with homeschooling, like, do you get time for yourself, Like, how is that? Like, that's so interesting. I kind of want to touch Facebook book. Yeah. So my oldest is in a homeschool coop, so I'm not actually her teacher. She goes to it's a it's like a little school and a church. Um, she goes Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday. And then my youngest, Um, I make her lesson plans, like so this week we're working on cursive writing and math, and so what I give her an assignment. It's it's so you have to uncouple the idea from what you think of, Like it's eight hours a day because that's how public school is ran. You don't have to do it that way, right, Yeah, sorry, and so um uh you know you don't. You don't have to do school the way public school is done. It doesn't take really as much time. It's much more freeing. So they even come with me, Like when I go and speak at different places, they come with me. Those for field trips and so as we go, they're learning about all types of things, and it's I feel like it's so much more of a well rounded um environment to learn because they get to see action, you know, they get to see mom in action. They get too. And I'm a single mom too, so I'm a single parent myself, and um so I know it's it's difficult. And you know, shout out to all you know, anybody who who does not who you know, Shout out to the men who are maybe looking for a mom, looking for a mom, looking for a wife, because you're a girl. It's on the market, but anyway available fellas, Hello, hello, somebody, that's how you doing? So they are out there. Yeah, so I go ahead, no, go ahead. I was just gonna say, you know, it is it is possible to get your child better educated, even if you decide to do homesol wids. I think, honestly better than charter, better than private. I think homeschooling is the best thing to do because it has bonded me and my girls like so much closer. I would have never I don't even feel like we would have been able to have this type of relationship that we have now. And a lot of the things that they pick up in public school is just trash. It is just yeah, you know, people are like, what about the social aspect. It's like, okay, do you see what they're I don't want them socializing with some of these rout rats. You know, I don't know. My son came home and was like, you said, we know our son. We could look at our kids and be like, something's going on. He some girl accused him of saying the word rape and it wasn't even that, so he got in trouble. I'm like, I said, show me the video, show me what they're talking about. Are you sure he did not say that? So the fact that like now he's being singled out that I believe is because I'm so you know, involved now. But they're just all it's like, oh, oh, oh, oh, this is oh oh you said that. He never said that. So yeah, I highly considering. And you know, I thought talking with his dad would be a struggle to try to convince him with homeschool. But he's also on board, so we've been looking into that good. Yeah. But you know, just a little fun fact, homeschool kids are being considered more. They're being considered first for jobs, They're being considered first even in higher education. Because the kids that are coming out of public school, they are not prepared. They're not prepared for life. And I'm not saying all kids good grace. I'm not saying all kids. I'm not saying all, but a lot of the kids because of a model that it is, they cannot read proficiently, they cannot do maths proficiently. Some of these kids do not even know how to run a cash register and has like pictures on it. It is baffling that what these kids do not know when they get out of these government schools. And so it has been a blessing to my family tremendously. So you said you and your daughters are bonding more. Let's get into that a little bit. So the femininity, Um, you're beautiful. We just had a conversation during break about your hair and all that stuff. Um, so let's get into that. So, like, how are you tackling that? So? Um, I was able to really show my daughters what where I messed up? You know, because I had this feminist mindset. Um, you know, before that whole trans transformation, Um, a moment happened, I was already coming out of the feminist sort of mindset. God was already helping me out of that. But um, helping them to helping them to understand that you do need a husband, you do need you know, you don't want to do life by yourself. Let me tell you this is freaking hard, Like this idea that I'm an independent woman, I can do it with all by myself. No thank you. I want to retire like I'm ready to retire, Okay, I don't want to do that, like because it is hard, it is not good, Like why have we been straddling young girls with this idea that you don't need a man to help you through life? Are you freaking nuts? Like I'm sorry, I don't want to answer the door at one o'clock in the morning. Is some psychoes ring a night door bell? Like I don't want to do that, No, thank you. I don't want to, you know, fix the car. And you know, I believe that there are traditional rules like I have no dire to freaking mode alarm like I'm sorry, I don't. And if you think that, you know, that doesn't make me feel more like I'm a based woman, you know, or something like that. Because I don't want to mow the grass, you can have go ahead and do you bu like you go girl. I think it's so important days are seeing us be with somebody that loves and protects and provides. I think that's extremely important, especially for my son as like I was always in I was in that same mindset. I want to be a boss, you know, like I want to be that girl, you know, you know, for a young boy to grow and see a man provide and protect. I think that's extremely the same with your little girl. So yeah, I've been able to show them like different, just helping to insteal that mindset without competing with the Yeah, the way that you know, society in the school, because that's the way they would get a lot of these ideas reinforce them, you know, which is just go and thottle out for you know, until your thirties and then you're gonna decide to scoop up a man like it's like no, he's already like the smart ones already took him, okay. And helping them understand that has you know, my daughter's my oldest you know, just opens up so much about you know, a boy that you know, boys that she's interested in, or what's happening, Like we just have this The conversations that we have now have just been incredible and the trust that we've developed and the you know, she knows that she can come to me about you know, all of these different things, and I am not competing with values that don't align with mine because she's getting what I want to instill into her. And and and we talk about how other people think. We certainly do because I want her to know. I want her to be able to critically think about Okay, well this is how some people think about this, and this is how other people think about this. Um, which we're we're just better able to have those conversations. And it's been beautiful. I love it amazing. Well, we're gonna wrap things up, so let everybody know where they can follow you. And I thank you so much for being my first gust. I'm so happy, so welcome. You can follow me at Keisha king and dot com. That's QUI sa k I n D Yes, it's Keisha with a que I know, I know, yes, um, but at this Keisha with the queue Kisa King dot com. I'm on Instagram, i am on Twitter, and I'm on YouTube, so go and subscribe to my channel also, and she single so and scared. Oh oh and I'm sorry, I have a pot. And the Kisa King Show is also a podcast and you can find that anywhere you get your podcast. So right, Well, thank you so much. 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